Informed Compassion

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If you need help quickly—

People in the early stage of Alzheimer's can seem okay to friends and relatives. Friends can help by realizing that it is sometimes impossible to control behaviors that might upset and inconvenience others. In the early stage, your friend is both the person you've always known and a person struggling with the ability to think, remember and make decisions.

Click the arrows for a few ideas of What to Say & What Not to Say to a friend with early stage Alzheimer's.



How do you respond when a friend or relative says to you, "My [wife, husband, mother, brother] has been diagnosed with Alzheimer's; we've been noticing some problems, but we weren't prepared for this shock"? You feel terrible for them, and you feel your own sense of loss, too. The best response may be to take the friend in your arms if it feels right, rather than saying anything. Whatever you do, think before you speak. Imagine the fear and pain your friend is feeling.

Click the arrows for Do's & Don'ts when you're told about the diagnosis.


Caregiving to an Alzheimer's patient who cannot be left alone is exhausting and isolating, but you can make a difference, especially if several friends work together. Look for more ideas in "Staying Connected." 

Click the arrows for 7 Ways to Support a Caregiver.



Staying connected—

LETTERS AND QUESTIONS about dementia and caregiving


More Information—

The tips and blogs on this page came from Mary's book, Alzheimer's: A Crash Course for Friends and Relatives. Mary also speaks about relationships and Alzheimer's. Click the photo to learn more.